A new, and I think better, way to plan for 2010 #fb

As I plan for 2010 and reflect on all that happened in 2009, I realize that there are several things I was tolerating in 2009 which will not be a part of my 2010.

You may choose to call this "adhering to boundaries" or "acknowledging and eliminating pet peeves", I simply refer to it as clearing space.

After all, if my energy isn't being ursurped by the things which take, rather than nourish, there's more space for those things which I want to attract.

Here's a partial list of those things (and people) which (who) won't be coming with me into the New Year (warning, this isn't for the faint-hearted):

• Vendors who don't meet the terms of our agreement (they've been fired)
• Clients who want everything and yet implement nothing (yes, I've let a few go)
• Biz owners who fail to recognize the importance of building relationships and being authentic (we can tell when you're being inauthentic, REALLY!)
• Companies who don't know the meaning of customer service or who retain employees who don't believe in it (I'm boycotting)
• Negative Nellies (I wish them well and would gleefully welcome them back into my life if they could display some optimism)
• Voicemail messages with no contact info, no real message (just "call me") and no good time to return the call (do everyone a favor, leave a detailed message with your phone or email so we can actually get back to you)
• Ditto incoming faxes with no return contact info (DUH!)
• Sales letters which promise the world and don't even deliver a county (we're back to being authentic)
• "No shows" who schedule a call and don't call or reschedule (this one shows absolutely no respect for the person being called)

In case you're wondering, the above isn't negative...it's about respecting my time, energy and "self" -- after all, those things we tolerate have a way of taking over and affecting our creativity, ability to manifest and general well-being.  And my family, and clients, deserve the best me I can give them.

Please leave me a comment below and let me know what you were tolerating in 2009 and how your 2010 will be different -- I'd love to hear from you!  And remember, YOU control your environment -- no one else.

Comments

[Gwynne Warner]

Love this! I've made some strong decisions in the last few days about wanting customer service from my vendors--not going to go into the Year of the Tiger without it!

[Susan Giurleo]

YES! I've fired vendors and support staff this year. I must get better at tolerating the no shows for phone calls. For some reason this happens a lot in my practice (maybe has to do with working with those with ADHD?) Never thought of it as disrespectful, but now that you mention it....
Have a great Christmas and New Year!

[Deborah Flate]

I so agree with this post, Sandra! You know I have always admired the way you think, but this really says it all for me! I think our tolorance to people behaving badly has gotten WAY too low. Time to raise the bar!! Great way to start 2010!

[Hazel Palache]

I see letting go of tolerations as power not negativity.

This year I realized I tolerated a few professionals who committed to being JV partners and then just flaking, so I have to choose more wisely and make sure I don't tolerate this in 2010.

I've been following you for quite a while and you always have such great information. Thank you. It's truly appreciated.

Wishing you a happy holiday and a joyful and successful 2010.

[janine]

Hi Sandra

love the new look! thanks for a great and interesting news letter.

I love the things to ditch list...got me thinking I am now going to set one up of my own. Mine will be on a personal level though as the time has come to drop a couple of folk..those who truely don't nourish and maybe never have..thanks great idea! regards and Merry Christmas to you and yours Janine

[Andrea Costantine]

I think we are on the same page, letting go of a lot of the same and even more like...

Distractors, time vampires, and energy wasters.
Offering any services I'm not extremely passionate about just because clients want them.
Letting go of any "shoulds" and only following divine guidance.

Thank you for your post!

[Melanie]

Your new "Powered by Emma" newsletter is beautiful, Sandy. Got a feeling you'll stick with it. :-)

2010 will be different for me in one BIG way. As an avid affiliate marketer, I will be no longer be promoting people who won't give me the time of day, answer my emails, or respond to messages I leave for them at social networking sites.

In other words, I'll be cleaning out my closets for 2010!

Sending blessings and joy your way for the holiday season,
Melanie

[Caroline Nelson]

Hi Sandra,

I agree I am also heartily sick of clients who don't make their coaching calls on time or who totally fail to make the call. And then want to reschedule at a time to suit them. From here on in they must pay for any call they don't make unless its an emergency. They must start to value my time as highly as they value their own. Wishing you Good Times, Good Cheer and a Happy New Year. P.S. Enjoy your white Christmas while I will have a traditional hot Aussie one at the beach.

[Nikki Lundberg]

Sandra - Thank you!

I will not be tolerating - negative self talk - people wasting my time.

Happy Holidays to you too!
Nikki